March 24, 2026

Chapter 136: Stalked From The Shadows-The Twisted Case of Cari Farver Part 1

In 2012, Cari Farver after blowing up at the man she had been seeing, vanished from Omaha, Nebraska but what followed made no sense. Her family, Dave Kroupa who she had been dating, and a woman named Liz Golyar, who dated the same man, began receiving disturbing, erratic messages from Cari. As the texts escalated into threats and harassment, it was clear that Cari was a stalker, hellbent on destroying lives.
However, as the investigation unfolded, the truth became far more disturbing than anyone imagined.

In Part 1, I take you through the three year long invesitgation into tracking Cari down, the digital trail that blew the case open and the chaos that led to a shocking act of violence.

What if the stalker was someone else all along?

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Network in Deep Podcasts with the Twist. Hello, Hello, Welcome

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to the next chapter. In the Book of the Dead.

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There is a quote that many people believe comes from

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the Bible, but was in fact written by English playwright

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William Congreve in nineteen sixty seven in his tragedy The

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Mourning Bride, and it says quote Heaven has no rage

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like love to hatre returned, nor hell a fury like

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a woman scorned. This is popular lead misquoted as being

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Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned. And this

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quote has a very plain meeting. Right, Nothing in heaven

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or hell is more formidable than a woman's slighted in love.

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This is something that some people take very seriously. You

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hear story ra all the time of women who have

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gotten revenge on an ax, and to be clear, men

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do the same thing. It's not just women, but some

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out there have gone to great lengths to get back

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at a former lover, even if that means involving the

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person that came after. And we've covered at least one

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case where a scorned woman took things to extremes and

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it ended in murder, like in the case of Sharirasmussen.

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This is another case where a woman decided she wouldn't

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let another get in the way of a relationship or

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the man that she wanted. This is the case of

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Liz Golier and Carrie Farber. In twenty twelve, a man

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named Dave Krupa moved to Omaha, Nebraska at thirty five

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years old. He and the mother of his children, Amy Flora,

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had broken up and she was relocating back home to

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count Nil Bluffs, so he agreed to move as well

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so that he could be closer to his children. He

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got a job managing an auto repair shop, but he

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was pretty lonely. He had been in a relationship for

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over a decade, so to suddenly be alone it was

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disorienting for him. He was single and looking for fun,

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not necessarily a relationship. But according to ABC News, he

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didn't really know where to start looking for a date. Quote,

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I didn't know how to venture back into the dating pool.

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I felt pretty rusty. So internet dating was the way

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to go. So in the summer of twenty twelve, Dave

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joins plenty of Fish to see if there was anyone

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out there that he might potentially be interested in. Of course,

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online dating in and of itself can be quite intimidating

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or even scary, depending on the person. While there are

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countless people looking for real connections, hookups, and relationships, that

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doesn't mean that there aren't bad people lurking in the shadows.

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But n as Dave told author Leslie Ruhl for her

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book about this case, A Tangled Web, he wasn't too concerned. Quote,

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I don't think of myself as really badass, but I'm

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not going to hide under a rock. You do what

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you do and hopefully turns out all right. And as

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a former member of the National Guard. In ordinary circumstances,

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maybe Dave really wouldn't have had anything to worry about,

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But the danger in this particular case was a different

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kind of concern than he ever could have expected. According

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to a Tangled Web, while Dave wanted something more casual,

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he wasn't one for a one night stand. He wanted

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something a little bit more meaningful than that, According to

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one of the many documentaries about this case called Lover

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stock Er Killer, Relatively soon after making his dating profile,

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he was matched with a thirty four year old woman

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named Shanna Elizabeth Golier who went by Liz, and Dave

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foundly had a lot in common. They enjoyed the same

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type of music and motorcycles. They both had children. Dave

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told ABC quote, I thought Liz was very pretty. I

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was attracted to her right away, so then we set

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up a date. The two met up and they ended

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up having a really good time together. Dave described her

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as smiley and full of life, and the two moved fast.

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As I said, Dave was looking to have fun and

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Liz was willing to oblige. They saw each other frequently,

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and Dave spoke of there for lack of a better term,

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relationship as being just what he needed at that time

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in his life. Liz was someone he could up fun with,

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but he wasn't tied down with a serious commitment, especially

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so soon after his breakup. This was just something fun

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for the both of them. After a few weeks, though,

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Dave started losing a bit of the interest he had

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in Liz. According to a Tangled Web well, the sex

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was great and Liz was clearly very into him. There

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was no substance to any of their conversations. Liz wasn't

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a stupid woman by any means, but Dave was a

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very intelligent guy and enjoyed having intellectual conversations, something he

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couldn't do with Liz. It was a purely physical arrangement,

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and while it was fine, he wanted more of a challenge.

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Besides the fact that Liz, who had previously been clear

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that she didn't have time for a relationship, was starting

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to get very clingy. She was always around. Dave expressed

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to Liz that while he liked spending time with her,

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he was not her boyfriend and he had no intentions

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of ever being monogamous with her. He made it clear

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that she could stick around if she wanted to, but

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he was not committed to her. He wanted to see

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what else was out there, so he got back on

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plenty of Fish and started looking around. And things were

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going well for Dave, at least in terms of getting matches.

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He was confident and attractive, and women were naturally drawn

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to that sort of thing. As the weeks passed by,

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Dave met with some of his matches, usually for coffee,

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and he tried to make a connection with at least

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one of them. However, Liz was still around, coming by

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for sex when she knew he had a date planned

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for later that night. After a few times at this

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going on, Dave urged Liz to date other men to

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stop waiting for him to change his mind, because that

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simply wasn't going to happen. Then Dave met thirty seven

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year old Carrie Farver about four months later when she

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brought her Ford Explorer into his workplace to be serviced.

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Dave told ABC that not only did he find Carrie

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to be beautiful, but they also had an instant connection.

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Quote when we looked at each other, there was a

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little spark. She's showing me something inside the vehicle, and

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we're standing there and were very close and there was

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some tension, but when the job was done, she left

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and Dave figured he'd never see her again. Coincidentally, a

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few weeks later, he sees her profile on Plenty of

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Fish and he sends her a message. They hit it

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off and they planned to go out on a date.

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Dave said, quote her spirit and her drive marked her

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out from the women I had met. She was smart

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and sexy. At the time the two met, Carrie was

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living in Macedonia, Iowa, with her son, who was in

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high school, and her friends and family described her as

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vivacious and warm, as well as a devoted mother. A

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friend of Carrie's, Amy Long, told ABC quote, you noticed

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Carrie when she walked in the room. She had a lap,

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she had a smile, She lit up a room. You

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couldn't help but notice her. You were drawn to her.

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In the past, Carrie did struggle with her mental health.

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Her mother and Nancy Rainey said she had been diagnosed

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with depression and later bipolar disorder in her twenties, and

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that she would occasionally stop taking the medication to manage

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it as they made her feel numb. However, Nancy said

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that by twenty twelve, her daughter had been doing well

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and was in a really great place in her life.

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Carrie was working as a computer programmer in Omaha, which

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was an hour away from her home, and she was

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open with Dave about her life being a young mom

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and the work that she did, and Dave was enthralled

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by her, as interested in Carrie as he was, though

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he still had Liz to contend with, who had managed

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to convince Dave after weeks of asking to be exclusive

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with her for a month long trial relationship in the

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hopes that he would change his mind about being monogamous.

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While the month was almost up and Dave was still

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not interested, Liz was doing her best to worm her

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way into his heart. On the day of their first date,

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Dave and Carrie went to dinner and they had a

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really great time. She laughed at his jokes. They had

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the intellectually stimulating conversations. Dave had been looking poor, and

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after dinner he invited Carrie back to his apartment to

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play cards. However, mere moments after they walked in the door,

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the buzzer rang outside, asking to come in to get

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something she had left. There was Liz Golier. Dave awkwardly

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explained the situation to Carrie before letting Liz come up,

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and Carrie ultimately decided it was probably better if she left,

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but she told Dave to call her when Liz had

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finished grabbing what she needed. Taking the potential drama in stride,

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the two women had a brief moment of eye contact

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as they passed each other in the stairwell. Dave said

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it was seconds worth, and Carrie exited the building, got

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into her car, and headed home. After she got what

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she needed, Liz was asked to leave, which she did,

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but not before trying to start a fight with Dave

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and crying to convince him to forget about his date.

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After she leapt, Dave called Carrie, who invited him to

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her place in Macedonia, where he ended up spending the night.

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Over the next two weeks, Carrie and Dave continued to

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hang out and things were going as perfect as they

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could get. They saw each other frequently, and Dave was

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continuously impressed by Carrie. Not only was she wildly intelligent,

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but she was fun to be around. Even though things

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were going so well, though Liz was still on the sidelines,

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not giving up on a potential relationship with Dave. Emailing

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him often and asking for a chance to go out,

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even if it was just as friends. In November of

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twenty twelve, Carrie has a big project to work on

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and Dave offers her to spend the week at his

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apartment to make the commute easier for her, as he

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lives so close to her office and her house was

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close to an hour away according to court records. Carrie

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agreed and made arrangements for her son to spend the

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week with her mother and stepfather while she was away.

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While this sounds like a big deal for some, like

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with Liz, Dave was clear with Carrie that he wasn't

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looking for a serious relationship, and she told him she

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felt the same. She liked being around him, but after

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some rough, emotionally trying relationships, she wasn't really looking to

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jump into something exclusive, and Dave was thrilled that they

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were both completely on the same page. Soon after this conversation, though,

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things changed dramatically. On November thirteenth, twenty twelve, Carrie was

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still staying at Dave's apartment again. They had been seeing

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each other for two weeks and they had a good

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thing going. Dave wakes up gets ready for work, and

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he kisses Carrie, who is still in bed, goodbye before

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leaving at around six am. A few hours later, Dave

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gets a text from Carrie and need loves to say

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he's confused because she's talking about moving in with him.

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As I mentioned, Dave had been clear from the get

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go that he wasn't looking for anything serious, and Carrie

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had not only agreed, but was I admitt that she

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felt the same way. Dave did admit in an interview

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with Dateline that while they had only known each other

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for a short time, things were going so well that

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he was reconsidering his no commitment rule, but it was

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definitely too soon for something as serious as moving in together.

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Dave responds that he's not interested in having her move in,

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besides the fact that while things had moved pretty quickly

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regarding the more physical aspects of the relationship, they still

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had only been seeing each other for two weeks. At

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this rejection, Dave's phone is inundated with profanity lace messages

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quote fine, fuck you, I hate you, I'm dating someone else,

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I don't want to see you anymore. Go away. At

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this Dave isn't sure what to think this whole situation

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was completely out of left field, but he doesn't answer,

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instead going about his workday. When he returns home on

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his lunch break a few hours later, Carrie is gone,

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and while he is a bit bummed out, that seems

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to be the end of it and he has clearly

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dodged a bullet. After a few days of silence, Dave

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starts getting messages from Carrie again, and they're concerning one

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of them read quote, You're a bastard. I'm going to

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destroy the things you care about. The messages increase in frequency,

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and Carrie seems insistent on making it abundantly clear that

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Dave had wronged her and she was going to ruin

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his life over it. At the same time, Carrie's mother, Nancy,

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is having a hard time getting hold of her. While

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she admits in Netflix's lover Stocker Killer that like many

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mother and daughter relationships, they had their problems, Carrie was

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usually very good at answering Nancy. In fact, the two

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typically spoke nearly every day, so the sudden radio silence

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was off put it even more so, though, is a

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text from Carrie announcing that she has taken a new

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job in Kansas, which Nancy received on Nova thirteenth, the

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very same day that Dave received his first strange message.

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After more of Nancy's texts go unanswered and Carrie fails

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to pick up her son to attend a family wedding

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on November fifteenth, as well as missing the baby shower

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she had planned for a good friend of hers, Nancy

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reports her daughter missing. She also informs the police of

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her daughter's bipolar diagnosis, and she lets them know that

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Carrie had mentioned she had been dating a man named

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Dave Krupa. The police visit Dave at his job, explaining

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that Carrie seemed to be missing, but Dave shows them

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the text messages that he had been receiving. She's not missing,

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She's fine if she's sending these texts. The officers agree,

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and they, according to Dave, reassure him that the texts

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are likely to stop soon. She's clearly disgruntled, but they

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claim that things like this usually don't last very long.

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On November nineteenth, Carrie's missing person's case is assigned to

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Potawatame County Deputy Sheriff Randall Phillip he In Corporal Ron

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Ambrose review the meager file and speak to Carrie's co

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workers According to a tangled web, they had last seen

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Carrie on the evening of November twelfth. As they had

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left the building. They spoke to her and noticed nothing

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amiss as they got in their cars. Carrie had even

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said she would see them in the morning, but she

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hadn't showed the next day, which was odd. Carrie was

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known for being incredibly reliable, and in fact, she had

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been working on something important for work and would never

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abandon it without notifying somebody or without cause. Days after

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she missed work and her superiors couldn't get a hold

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of her, Carrie's supervisor received a letter of resignation from her,

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stating that she had taken a new position at a

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company in Kansas. After the police determined that her daughter

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seems to be fine, Nancy starts getting messages from Carrie

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on Facebook. Carrie says she's okay, she just needed some

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space and she'd come back soon. But then the messages

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changed tone and Carrie accuses her mother of being a

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bad parent and of being controlling. According to ABC, Nancy

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noticed that many of her daughter's messages contained spelling and

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punctuation errors, something that Carrie was a stickler about. But

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the Potawatame police seemed unconcerned. Nancy had admitted to them

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that Carrie had stopped taking her medication before, and this

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behavior seemed to reflect that she might have stopped taking

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it once again. According to the Omaha World Harold, some

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of the messages were wildly out of character for Carrie.

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Nancy has sent a picture of a five thousand dollars

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check for bedroom furniture with a request to let a

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woman in to pick up this furniture. This is important

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and we'll come back to it later on. But Nancy

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refused unless Carrie called her, and the text turned more belligerent.

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Nancy told the Omaha World Harold quote, all of this

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was so bizarre and so oh online. Carrie, she would

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have come and talked to me. She wouldn't have just

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threatened all of the stuff over her text. Even more concerned,

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Nancy informs the police of the messages, and they continue

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to try and track her down. Nancy and Dave were

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not the only ones getting strange text messages, though. While

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it had been a while since he had last seen

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Liz Gullier, one night, she showed up at his door

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very upset because her car had been keyed This wasn't

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superficial damage either. It was a deep gouge along the

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length of her car. Liz also tells Dave that she

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had been receiving similar text messages from Carrie, saying that

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she would continue to make things difficult for her. Liz

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and Dave were concerned that the behavior would escalate and

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one of them would end up seriously hurt. Carrie had

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clearly become obsessed with Dave, and he didn't know what

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to do to stop what was happening. As the weeks passed,

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the emails and text messages increased in frequency, with Liz

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and Dave reports did they receiving thirty to forty texts

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in upwards up one hundred emails a day, all coming

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from different accounts. But he knew Carrie was behind the messages.

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Dave said, quote, I knew it was all Carrie because

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the verbiage was all the same. As the messages continued

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to flood in, with Carrie saying things like quote, you

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still want me? I know you do. I will take

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over your life and I don't know what I saw

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on you. The messages had also evolved into statements telling

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Dave that he was being watched he'd received texts and

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emails while he was at work describing the customers he

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was speaking to, and other messages told of how he

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was being watched at home through his window as he

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sat watching TV. Liz was being watched as well. Because

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when Dave and Liz were together their romance rekindling due

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to the drama connecting them, their phones would go off simultaneously.

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Dave told People magazine quote, We'd be hanging out on

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a Saturday and both our emails would be blowing up

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at the same time. In late November of twenty twelve,

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the escalating behavior that Dave and Liz worried about finally happened.

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Dave had received photos of Carrie from the inside of

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Liz's home, and he raced over in a panic to

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find that while Liz was ultimately safe, her garage had

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been broken into and vandalized, the words quote whore from

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Dave's spray painted onto the wall. Dave told lover Stocker

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Killer that he felt responsible for the attacks against Liz

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because she was an innocent bystander in all of this.

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This incident was reported to the police, as well as

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the messages from Carrie saying she was watching him at work.

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Of course, now the police are concerned as this behavior

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is inching closer and closer to violence, but they don't

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know where Carrie is. Sergeant Chris Lgrow of the Omaha

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Police Department Special Victims Unit specializing in domestic violence and stalking,

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spoke in the documentary how the messages that Dave continued

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to receive while he was working implied that Carrie was

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at the auto body shop, but even with the police

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watching the building, they couldn't find her. They looked everywhere,

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doing a reverse stakeout to try and find out where

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she was watching from. Sergeant Lagroux went door to door

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with Carrie's picture as well, but no one recognized her.

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While Carrie was still actively sending texts and emails to people,

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no one had seen her in weeks. Soon she had

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missed her birthday, her son's birthday, as well as the

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death of her father that December and his funeral events

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and tragedies that she should have been there for. In

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January of twenty thirteen, after no sign of Carrie in

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two months, a new Facebook of hers popped up. The

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profile picture was of Carrie and her late dad. Oddly enough,

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according to the Omaha World Herald. One of the first

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posts made on this account was a photo of a

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hand wearing an engagement ring. The supposed fiance was Dave Krupa,

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according to what Carrie had posted. Nancy informed the police,

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and Sergeant Jason, the Master of the Pottawatamee County Sheriff's Office,

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spoke to Dave about this. Dave confirmed that he was

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definitely not engaged to Carrie, and while he had still

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been receiving countless texts and emails from her, he had

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not seen her since six a m. On the morning

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of November thirteenth. Soon after this new Facebook was created,

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Nancy started receiving messages from the account, and she asked

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for a phone call to see if the person sending

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the messages was really her daughter. In response, she was told, quote, fine,

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I will call you, but I am done. After that.

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You have Max and I am grateful, but after all

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the cop stuff from before, I am done. I am

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not ten years old, mom. I can leave him and

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move on with someone new. This message raised even more

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suspicion for Nancy because Carrie was completely devoted to her son.

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She kept a close eye on him and went to

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all of his sporting events and school activities, and she

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also called him frequently to talk to him instead of texting.

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For Carrie to abandon her only child to run off

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with a man, as she had implied, was not only

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out of character for her, but something that no one

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thought she was capable of doing. Nancy also never received

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that promised phone call. Also that January, Dave called the

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police to report that Carrie's black Ford Explorer was parked

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near his apartment. Omaha police detective searched the vehicle, which

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they observed being credibly clean, and recovered a fingerprint on

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a mint container, according to ABC, but it didn't match

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anything in their database or the FBI's National one. Police,

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in an effort to try and trace her, obtained consent

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from lizzen Dave, according to court records, to extract data

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from their phones related to the messages and emails that

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they had been receiving. However, the data extracted was focused

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on messages recently received, not ones deleted prior to this.

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As police worked to figure out where Carrie was, Liz

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Chapter 136: Stalked From The Shadows-The Twisted Case of Cari Farver Part 1

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